We all carry with us the patterns of behaviour and learned beliefs from our earliest relationships, with parents, siblings and other important people in our childhood. These relationships influence how we relate to people in adulthood and can lead to problems if they are dysfunctional.
We activate our relationship issues in many different circumstances, not just in close couple relationships. In work, in social groups, adult relationships with family members can all be influenced by the way we related to people when we were very young.
In Lifespan Integration we link current problems and dysfunctional behaviour to emotionally laden memories or ways of relating to parents or caregivers. After connecting this information to emotional memories held in the present at a deep level in the emotional brain, the neural system resets in a way which is more appropriate for an adult in a way which gives insight and understanding. The old way of reacting is not necessary any more.
The causes of angry reactions, fear of being judged and feelings of loneliness which can cause so much trouble in relationships can be eliminated. Clients report that they feel better about life, they are more able to enjoy close relationships and anxiety and other symptoms are diminished.