Eating disorders

Eating Disorders can take many forms; bulimia, anorexia, binge eating, purging, comfort eating, complicated food routines or a combination of these extremes which varies from time to time, EDNOS (eating disorder not otherwise specified), or being very fussy about food.

If you find it difficult to enjoy eating without constantly thinking about what you are eating, knowing that you can make yourself sick so that you will feel better later. If you sometimes feel out of control and afraid that you will not be able to stop eating or eat ‘normally’ then I can help you.

All of these symptoms are your way of trying to make yourself feel better ‘right now’ and you will feel worse when you are anxious or stressed.
Underlying all if this is a strong need to feel in control of your emotions, you may feel unhappy about yourself or your appearance, you may have low self esteem, or you feel generally anxious and you may worry constantly about how other people see you and what they think of you.

If this sounds like you there is possibly an underlying unhappiness, anxiety or subconscious feelings of being worthless which is causing all of these problems.

With my experience and gentle approach to therapy I can help you to recover and go forward to be happy and relaxed about food in the future.

I felt profoundly lost in bulimia which I had suffered for many, many years. I saw Melanie as the side effects continued to get worse such as an irregular heartbeat, uncontrollable binge urges and the enamel had almost worn away on my teeth. My bulimia was triggered by trauma in childhood and the uncomfortable emotions I felt such as guilt & shame. It was a way of distancing myself from feelings that seemed unmanageable and overwhelming, such as worthlessness and loneliness. I hated myself when alone. It helped me deal with so much pain I had inside as through purging, all the negative feelings disappeared and I felt comforted. Bulimia for me was a way to gain some control in my life. Feelings buried in my past or fresh from my current life. However, I was just kidding myself as all the emotional trauma remained with me. I was hurting and punishing myself when I really shouldn’t have been. It also felt good knowing that I could eat whatever I wanted and I wouldn’t gain any weight.

I also suffered huge confidence issues as my mother is controlling which made it difficult for me to grow into the well adjusted adult I deserved to be. My father remains emotionally distant and overly critical. They had strict unspoken rules for controlling which emotions could be expressed from an early age. They had little time for me and I felt unimportant. I learnt to monitor as well as hide my feelings and most of the time I denied them. I had no experience about talking about feelings. I also feared other peoples’ feelings too always remaining alert to them, ensuring they were not upset in anyway. As a result, I constantly compared myself to others as well as took remarks as well as situations extremely personally. I was always trying my best to please others in order to feel valued and a worthwhile human being. My best was never good enough. I was always setting myself up for a huge fall. I also saw Melanie for issues around sex too.

Melanie, no matter what I brought in to the room and no matter how I was whether it was nervous, scared, testing, tearful, always remained constant in her reactions towards me, creating a safe place for me to be. This allowed me to begin showing the parts of me that no other person has seen, such as the profound vulnerability and how easily hurt I could be. She allowed me to feel comfortable discussing and opening up about things I would have never discussed with anyone else.

Melanie was always most understanding, open, genuine, patient, professional, consistent, full of empathy and compassion, positive and so easy to talk to about anything. She knew also just when to push me and when to be understanding with me. The ideal Therapist for anyone!

The resultant change in my behaviour has resonated through every aspect of my life. I am now looking at life from a new direction and enjoying the view. She has been a real inspiration to me. I now have an inner calmness and happiness which will always remain with me and a knowing that I can handle and face anything the future now holds with great confidence. It doesn’t seem right for me that all I can come up with is to say thank you to Melanie.

I would urge anyone with any issues to see Melanie no matter how embarrassing or awkward. Choose to change now and live a life that’s full and rich as you deserve and pick up the phone or email Melanie now.

S. Ipswich (Bulimia, child abuse and confidence issues)

Melanie Collings, can help you with eating disorders in Wetherden near Stowmarket, Mid Suffolk. In easy reach of: Ipswich, Woodbridge, Colchester, Wickham Market, Felixstowe, Framlingham, Lowestoft, Sudbury, Stowmarket, Needham Market, Martlesham, Wetherden, Elmswell, Woolpit, Thurston, Bury St Edmunds.

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I am a Level II trained practitioner in Lifespan Integration and a PICT Practitioner, (Parks Inner Child Therapy); I am trained to help people to overcome anxiety, trauma, and the ongoing effects of childhood neglect or inadequate parenting. I trained as a therapist with the International Association of Evidence Based Psychotherapy ; a highly successful organisation of analytical therapists established in 1985 (previously IAPH). Members of the IAEBP are bound by a code of practice and ethics and all members have satisfied the Examination Board of the Association of their knowledge and competence. I am a member of the National Counselling Society.

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07855 798 789

Wetherden, Stowmarket, Suffolk, IP13 3QY

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